Do you have #CTConfidence? plus WIN a photo shoot with Abigail K worth R1950!

About a month back I got an email from Abigail K (who did my Wedded Bliss photo shoot about 2 years ago) inviting me to take part in a campaign she was doing called #CTConfidence.

Along with 9 other beauty bloggers I was invited to take part in a “Before” and “After” photo shoot with a difference…

You see the idea was to take photos of us the other way around – a reverse makeover if you will. Our “Before” photos would be of us fully madeup with our makeup and hair “done” as we usually present ourselves to the world as beauty bloggers.

The “After” photos would be of us “au natural” with no makeup, casual hair and comfy clothes – as if we were slobbing around at home!

In this age of social media we all expect to be able to scrutinise what images of us are posted to Facebook or tagged on Instagram and to select only the very best. Imagine how much harder it is for us beauty bloggers. We supposed to always present our best face forward – on our blog and in real life at various industry events. The thought of baring all was more than intimidating!

Anyway I decided at the age of 35 I didn’t have much to loose… and truth be told I did need an updated profile pic so I said yes….

And I’m so glad I did. Not only did I walk away with a stunning new profile pic (see the side bar!) thanks to Abigail’s talents, but I also had an amazing experience, a boost to my confidence and I can say I took part in this awesome #CTConfidence campaign to inspire woman across Cape Town, and the world, to embrace their natural beauty and be confident in who they are! What a win!

Watch the video of the #CTConfidence campaign here…

Abigail herself said the following about the campaign:

The experience was enlightening and interesting to see how the girls responded to the process. Some were reserved and clearly a little uncomfortable with the notion of being photographed without makeup, but determined to accept the challenge. Others fully embraced it and actually enjoyed the After shoot more than the Before!


And here are the “Before” and “After” photos of the Cape Town beauty bloggers who took part plus their thoughts on what confidence meant to them. I’m so honoured to call all of these girls friends and can vouch for the fact that they are all beautiful – inside and out…

AbbyTo me confidence is fully accepting yourself…flaws, strengths, they all make you you. So why not embrace that uniqueness rather than doubt yourself. Confidence is actually easy, just be you. ~ Abby from One Stilletto at a Time

CandiceConfidence means being comfortable in your own skin,with who you are and I don’t think it’s about the makeup that you’re wearing or the clothes that you’re wearing. I think first and foremost, it’s about being happy with who you are and comfortable. ~ Candice-Lee from In My Bag

CaraBeing confident means loving yourself as you are. Not trying to be someone else, not being envious of others. Loving you! ~ Cara from Carafay
Cara’s Makeup by Lara Gwyne

Charlene-Before-and-AfterConfidence to me means loving all that you are and not needing any validation of your worth from anyone else but you. ~ Charlene from GeeWhiskers

Chereen-Before-AfterConfidence is being comfortable in your own skin. It’s about embracing and accepting your co-called flaws and making the most of your best features. ~ Chereen from For the Beauty of It
Chereen’s makeup by Ashleigh Strydom

Eloise-Before-AfterConfidence to me is wearing no makeup, no designer threads, and no filters, and still feeling beautiful and comfortable. ~ Eloise from

Lauren-Before-AfterConfidence means being happy and feeling comfortable with your appearance and the place you are in your life. Being grateful that you are who you are right now. ~ Lauren from Dear Heart Beauty

Meg-Before-AfterConfidence is the belief in your own self worth. The belief that you can achieve whatever you set out to do, no matter the opinions of others. Confidence is the belief that you have value. ~ Meg from Mind The Curves

VictoriaConfidence means being comfortable in your own skin – knowing your strengths, your style and your best attributes and never being swayed from these as they make you who you are. Truly confident and therefore, beautiful. ~ Victoria from Kiss, Blush & Tell

Aren’t they all gorgeous?


Oh I suppose you want to see me…


Confidence is carrying yourself with a quiet strength and inner belief that you know you are worthy, despite what you look like or what others say about you. Embracing your uniqueness and celebrating what makes you, you!


So the good news is that I’ve partnered up with Abigail K to offer you, my beautiful Becoming you readers, a chance to have a #CTConfidence photo shoot of your very own. And just in time for Women’s Day on 9 August. OK well you won’t have to do the no-makeup pics unless you want to… This will be one of Abigail’s Profile Pic Packages valued at R1950.00 which includes hair and makeup by her stylist and a mini-shoot including 5 hi-res digital images with the option to purchase more. To find out more view the package info on her website here. Sounds awesome right?! Best you enter right away…



Images: Abigail K Photography

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Kathryn Rossiter

Kathryn is a South African lifestyle blogger and mom of 2 who has been blogging daily for over 9 years! She writes about travel, health, beauty, fashion, decor and family... but not food (unless it's food she's eaten made by someone else) as she is a hopeless cook. She only wakes up early for 2 things... a red-eye flight to somewhere exotic and early morning game drives. She has just finished an extensive home renovation and would prefer to never see another box again. She's never met a chocolate or glass of bubbles that she didn't like!

  1. Confidence to me is making the choices that feel right to me and being comfortable in my own skin.

  2. Confidence to me means accepting yourself and knowing who you are. Accepting your strenghts and weaknesses and loving yourself regardless of your shortcomings as you percieve them. Confidence comes from knowing who you are and what you bring to the world and those around you.

  3. To me, confidence is acceptance and embracing yourself. I wouldn’t even say that it is embracing ‘flaws’ as nothing is really a flaw, but rather, it is how you see everything. And I believe everyone is beautiful if they choose to focus on how much they have to offer. Beauty extends beyond the physical and it should. Beauty cannot and is not merely aesthetic and cannot be defined or determined according to specific standards.

  4. Confidence to me is not worrying about wearing make up and accepting myself as I am… and smiling about that from the inside out…

  5. Confidence is waking up and being happy with you as a person, inside and out. Confidence shows from the inside out when you are enjoying me-time, as well as relaxing with friends and loved ones. It is about accepting your flaws and embracing your strengths.

  6. Confidence to me comes from accepting who you are and not placing judgement upon yourself. It is about believing in yourself and not aspiring to what society or your peers expect of you.

  7. Being comfortable within myself, being able to sit at a restaurant on my own, talk to a stranger and not feel self conscious about myself! being comfortable in my own skin, who cares what others thing, really!

  8. Confidence for me is knowing that despite whatever you may hear from others (and even yourself sometimes) you believe in yourself and know that you can do whatever you need to do.

  9. Confidence is being secure in who you are in private and public. It’s accepting yourself for who you are and loving it! “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”- Dr Seuss

  10. Confidence to me is being happy with myself and loving all my flaws. I usually just show up with my big toothy smile, my unruly curlies and my flat fitflop shoes – that’s me, most days.

  11. Confidence is knowing who you are, embracing your uniqueness and being comfortable in your own skin.

    The journey for me hasn’t always been easy. There was a period where I battled with low self -esteem and I joined a belly dance group which changed my life (for the better). My confidence has improved, I feel like I have a deeper and better connection to my inner most soul and my body confidence has improved too.

    Such an awesome competition Kathryn.

  12. Confidence is knowing who you are on the inside and it will resonate outwards to your beauty and personality 🙂

  13. Confidence is thinking things through and making the right decision for YOU. Its knowing who you are and listening to your convictions and not the ones society inflicts on you. Confidence is knowing you were created for such a time as this, with unique and beautiful attributes, both inside and out. Daring to risk, and push yourself for your own sake, and not for the approval of others.

  14. Confidence to me means being comfortable in my own skin. Something that is not always easy to feel but the realisation that I am exactly the way God made me is comforting.

  15. Confidence to mean should mean that I have to accept who I am in my own skin and not try and compete with other or looking like Twiggy at 55. I should accept that I am SEXY … I have “section 1” … “section 2” … “section 3” .. lol

  16. Confidence is having the trust, faith, self-belief and belief in your abilities and talents.

  17. Confidence is when you look yourself in the mirror and are completely content with what reflects back, not only outward but from within: self belief and how you value your worth.

  18. Confidence means knowing who you are, believing in yourself, never allowing criticism and judgement to get the better of you and it’s about being true to yourself and staying grounded.

  19. To me confidence means self-acceptance and self-love. Knowing and accepting both your weaknesses and strengths. Not changing who you are as a person to accommodate anyone else. Confidence comes from within and knowing what you bring to your loved ones, to those around you and to the world.

  20. Confidence is believing in yourself and completely being yourself without worrying what others think of you.

  21. Confidence means being able to dare be who you really are and not give a damn about what the next person thinks of that. Careless truthfullness, no lies attached, no hidden agenda’s, suretly of self will bring about self love

  22. Confidence is being able to feel what you feel and let it show. Be exactly who you truly are in this moment and not fake being anything different from that. Confidence is not needing to compare or measure up, knowing you’re the only person who can ever be the best version of you.

  23. Confidence is about integrity. It is staying true to yourself, abiding by what you believe, even when it is uncomfortable or unpopular.
    It takes courage.
    Being confident is being brave, a little…

  24. To me confidence means living in your truth, to stand strong in your convictions and not be swayed by negative opinion or influence.

  25. Confidence to me represents a woman’s strength and inner beauty. The ability to show the world how incredible you are, inside and out.

  26. Confidence is the key accessory that makes the most put together or tops turvy look seem beautiful…that screams look at me, I am courageously,beautifully me.

  27. Confidence is that quiet twinkle that allows you to celebrate your achievements… However big or small! And every day!! Could be your birthday (yes… I will celebrate everyone of those), a day without a chocolate, running just that little bit further… Its not tangible but people around you will feel it somehow.

  28. Confidence is believing in yourself and not worrying about what other people may/may not think about you. Confidence comes with maturity.

  29. Confidence for me is to have faith in myself, to believe in myself and to feel good in my skin. Confidence also comes with age, the older I get the more confidence I have in myself. Always nice to have your hair and make-up done by someone and to dress nice gives you a bit more confidence. I am busy with a divorce and it can take away a bit of confidence in yourself, but always nice if somebody gives me compliments in these difficult times, gives me a bit of confidence back:)

  30. Confidence is not about what you wear or how you look, but rather how you wear it and your attitude about yourself and others! We are all made beautiful. Every part of us ,even the parts we love the least. Be confident and beYOUtiful! #bodypositivity #whatmakesUSbeautiful 🙂

  31. Confidence to me is believing in yourself, knowing that you are loved and accepted for who you are, and not being scared to stand up for what you believe in.

  32. Confidence to me, means after walking a journey of accepting and learning to love yourself, being able to discover who U r and who God made U to be. Being able to finally be free to be yourself and not worry about what others think. Confidence is learning to get Ur own sparkle on and in the process leaving some glitter trails behind U to encourage others to sparkle too!

  33. I think confidence is not being swayed by the opinions of others, being able to make choices based on what is best for you and not what is popular.

  34. Confidence to me is knowing that no matter what others may think of you or your looks, you are happy & comfortable to present yourself to the “world” regardless. Whether that means glammed to the nines or clad in your favourite comfort clothes.

  35. Confidence for me as a teenage girl is the power to walk proud even if people judge you, because it’s in that moment you’re the strongest you can be and over all it’s you who has the power over yourself.
    You have the control to explore those qualities or to hide then under clothes or makeup.
    I think the most beautiful thing a person can have is confidence in themselves and in others, that’s why I believe in myself.

  36. With all individual challenges we face, being strong is an essential factor of survival for women.

  37. Confidence to me is being happy with who you are, inside and out and being able to make decisions about things and being happy with those decisions. Knowing that it is the right thing for you, your partner, family etc and not being concerned with what others think. Being able to receive advice and opinions and being able to make your own decisions and being content with them. Knowing your purpose for this season of life and being content in that.

  38. Confidence is allowing the powerful essence of you to be experience by those around you, in a gentle non overpowering manner.

  39. What confidence means to me…
    Confidence is an attitude that asks: “Am I good enough ?” And only you can answer this of yourself, ” Yes, I believe that I am!”

  40. Confidence to me is being comfortable in who you are… letting your inner beauty shine out and inspire all those around you… whist having a positive attitude and showing love to all you meet. Confidence comes when we learn to love ourselves for who we are and have a purpose and vision in life… so that we may then go forth and contribute to society and inspire and instill confidence in others.

  41. Confidence means that I get to choose how I want to live my life, I get to do things that make n keep me happy in life,I get to make the right decisions regarding the way people treat me. I am in control of my life n my destiny. So by been positive,having faith in god n thanking the universe I’m going the right way.

  42. Confidence to me is getting dressed in the morning not caring about what so-and-so wil think of u in the school carpark, or an ex who sees u in the mall looking less than glam. Beauty radiates from within. A smile. A knowing. A knowing who you are. A confidence in your identity.

  43. Confidence means still keeping your head high on a bad hair day. Still putting a smile on your face when you had to rush out without make – up. Confidence is being happy and satisfied with who and what you are.

  44. Confidence means still keeping your head high on a bad hair day. Still putting a smile on your face when you had to rush out without make – up. Confidence is being happy and satisfied with who and what you are.

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