What is beauty to you? Often we think it’s the obvious things – the supermodel figure and the movie star face, but let’s be honest, how many of us actually have those things. How many of us know someone in our inner circle who does? Not many. Maybe a handful of people we know. So, is the world full of un-beautiful people with only a select few beautiful ones living in Hollywood or Paris? No, we would be ignorant to think that.
There are beautiful people who cross our paths every day – we see it in them, but not many of them see it in themselves and almost NONE of us see it in ourselves! Why is that? Has our perception of what beauty is been so skewed that we neglect to notice it right in front of us?
When I sat down to think about what #BeautyIs I came up with the following list…
– clean hair
– freshly painted nails
– a contagious laugh
– a naughty look
– good posture
– a confident handshake
– eye contact
– a fun personality
– silly dance moves
– a courageous career move
– a squishy mommy tummy
– soft hands
– radiant skin
– a friendly face
– self-acceptance & love
– a generous spirit
– a listening ear
– a genuine smile
– inner peace
– a warm embrace
– subtle scent
– body confidence
Upon reflection I realised that beauty is in fact all around us, you, me, everyday! We all have the opportunity to embrace our own beauty everyday but so often we don’t! We all possess the power to feel beautiful, the trick is learning how to change our state of mind in order to unlock it.
Once we believe that beauty is a state of mind, we can begin to feel beautiful and confident every day.
This was beautifully demonstrated by Dove in a recent video they released called Dove Patches.
Watch it here first and then I’ll chat more about the outcome…
Throughout the Dove: Patches film, it becomes clear how low self-esteem affects many elements of the women’s lives. As the women become more confident about the way they look, personal relationships flourish and they develop a more optimistic outlook on their daily routine. One of the women who participated shared that she felt ashamed of her arms and had always avoided shopping. A few days into the experiment, she started to feel more beautiful and invited her daughter to go shopping for the first time. The two of them spent an unforgettable day together and they tried on dresses that she had never dreamed of wearing.
“When a woman feels beautiful, she radiates happiness and confidence, which inspires her life in a significant way.” – Dr. Kearney-Cooke.
A question I often ask is how can we teach our children, especially our daughters, to love themselves if we don’t see the beauty in ourselves first? Would we ever repeat what we tell ourselves in the mirror to our best friend or our daughter, our sister or our mom. Not a chance! We would be the first to tell them how lovely they look and what a beautiful person they are. So why is it that we stopped believing that we were beautiful?
What drives our self esteem and our impressions of ourselves and how can we change our own minds to believe a new narrative about our beauty? No, we don’t actually need a miracle patch, what we need is to start believing the good things about ourselves and our appearance! To start telling ourselves good things! If we have the right state of mind we can unlock a powerful feeling of beauty that lives inside all of us women.
Can you relate to the women in the video?
How can you change the way you’ve always thought about beauty and your appearance?
If asked can you name one thing about yourself that you think is beautiful?
What conversations should we be having with one another to boost our self-esteem and empower the beautiful real women around us?
What do you think #BeautyIs?
I’d love to hear from you so please leave a comment below!
I have 10 Dove hampers including branded white journals for the 10 most thought-provoking comments left below!
Winners will be drawn and announced on Monday 19 May so get commenting soon!