Today in my What I… blogger interview I’m featuring Durban-based Victoria da Costa, a blogger, amateur photographer, poet and an avid tea drinker. She writes about lifestyle related topics and on the odd occasion, shares a rant or two, just to spice things up on her blog, All Things Belo. (Belo means Beautiful in Portuguese.)
Know: is that time heals all wounds. When my grandmother passed away 4 years ago and then my grandfather who passed away last year. I thought my world was coming to an end. I would be waking up in the morning’s, not knowing how to live without them, not knowing how to go on with life. But I did. I still miss them terribly and have my days where I just want to be left alone and cry. Even those it’s not nice when we loose loved ones. We must just believe that they are in a better place and remember them when they were alive.
Love: is to love myself. I have been on a self-love journey for about a year and a half now, and what a journey it has been. It hasn’t been easy, it’s been difficult to say the least. I never really felt like I was good enough to love, but going through this journey of self-love & self-discovery. I have taught myself that I am worthy of love, and worthy of myself. Some days it’s difficult to see that, but I am a work in progress. Just like everyone else.
Read: self-help & non-fiction books. I am currently reading and loving Eat Pray Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. This is the book that has impacted me so much in my life. It is filled with love, heartbreak, self-discovery and a difficult relationship with herself. It is a book, I believe, every woman should read in her life. It is a revelation.
Want: is women to love themselves and empower one another. I have seen so many women talking so badly to themselves and about themselves that it makes me sad. I want to remind women that it is okay, to be yourself and to love yourself, regardless of their flaws. We need to love ourselves whole-heartedly, passionately and without thinking that we don’t have a right to love ourselves. Because we do. We need to love other women, empower other women, embrace women. No matter if they’re, Black, Muslim, Disabled, Trans, Fat or Poor. They’re women regardless.
Wear: Well I am a casual-chic kind of woman. So I’m always wearing jeans with sneakers, or sweatpants with heels and and oversized jersey with one of my designer handbags. But when I do need to get all dressed up for a date or event, then I literally go ALL OUT!
Need: I am pretty laid back and don’t really need much. Family, books, wifi, my phone, series & movies and music is pretty much all I need to survive if I was ever in a situation where I need to pick a few things.