This week Time magazine ran a front cover story about how among families, parents generally DO have a favourite child as much as they profess to love all their children equally in public as many as 60% secretly do favour one sibling over another…. Here is a round up of all the articles which I found online about this topic this week. Let me know if you know of any more by leaving a link in the comments…
In my own experience during the 18 months that I have been a parent to 2 children, is that each child has a different relationship with me and I with them – and I enjoy different aspects of my relationship with both of them at different times. I like to think that I don’t have a favourite but maybe at different stages of life I will find one easier to get along with than the other…. It’s definitely something I will try to avoid as I don’t think it’s helpful to anyone involved. A quote which I enjoyed reading and which sums up my feelings nicely is: “To be loved equally is somehow to be loved less. To be loved uniquely – for one’s own special self – is to be loved as much as we need to be loved.” – Siblings Without Rivalry.
So I will continue to love my children uniquely not equally!
What do you think about this subject – can you see this happening in your own family? Either as one of the siblings or as the parent???