For the past few years I’ve found that every time Mother’s Day rolls around I feel a bit let down… So much so that I had actually planned to write a blog post all about why I hate Mother’s Day. Time has got the better of me this year (again) so I haven’t got around to writing the post but the “just” of it was along the lines of always feeling so disappointed about how much of a let down the day feels. It’s the one holiday that never feels like a holiday to me!
I’m sure it’s my own fault – falling prey to the commercialisation of the day and raising the expectations in my head of what the day means, only to feel rather let down when my husband forgets and the kids have scrawled a last minute pen drawing as a card.
Add to that the complication that I never quite I get the day off because I’m usually having to host my extended family so that we all can celebrate my own mom… It’s a bit of a mess really and I always seem to come away feeling disappointed with myself mostly!
Why did I allow myself to have expectations in the first place? Why did I feel the need to be celebrated? All very selfish and self-centred really!
Last year around this time I noticed that a few of my fellow blogging mama’s had turned the day around and done something really incredible with the day… one to take the focus off of themselves and shift it on to a new mom who needed it much more! I admit to feeling a bit left out and disappointed that I hadn’t heard about this amazing initiative earlier in order to sign up and take part…
This year I managed to find out about it in time!!!
So for this Mother’s Day I’ll be switching things up too. I’ve signed up to visit a maternity ward near my home on the morning of Mother’s Day.
Instead of wallowing in my sorrows about how I didn’t get a big bunch of flowers or a box of LINDT, I’ll be shifting the focus and embracing a new mom who most certainly needs much more than flowers and chocolate.
A little bit more about the Mother’s Day Connect Campaign…
This is the 3rd year that the Mother’s Day Connect Campaign is running and it is an amazing initiative by a non-profit organisation called Embrace.
Women across South Africa will be donating 1 hour of their time this Mother’s Day (13 May 2018) to spend with a new mom at a local government hospital’s maternity ward.
Last year moms across the country visited 27 hospitals and midwife obstetric units in 6 cities around the country. Over 400 women met with 1530 mothers and their brand new babies to usher them into the tribe of motherhood.
It’s not too late to get involved
Sign up and donate 1-hour of your Mother’s Day on 13 May to spend with a new mom! These moms often feel scared, alone, isolated….with very little support and not much to return home to. The idea behind this project is to support and celebrate them and their new role as a new mom. Cape Embrace want to put the sisterhood back into motherhood, as they believe that as women we are better together.
This truly is more than just a project, it is a declaration. We, as women of South Africa, believe that the right of childbirth should be celebrated and supported. We believe that no mother should feel lonely, scared or isolated – and that we, as fellow women, have a role to play in rebuilding the vital connections every mother needs to flourish in her motherhood journey.
Rally your moms, sisters, friends and colleagues or just sign up alone and meet a few moms from your community (or maybe from a neighbouring community that you might otherwise never visit!
Head on over to sign up at Mother’s Day Connect (This is NB in order to participate as this is a safety requirement with the hospitals) You’ll then be directed to a booking page where you can reserve your spot at your local hospital across the country. See the list of confirmed hospitals. I’ll be popping along to the nearest government maternity ward to my home, Retreat. I’m sure it will be an eye-opener indeed to see where I might have had to birth my own 2 babies had I lived in different circumstances just a few km’s from my current home.
I’m aware that this might be a slightly uncomfortable way to spend a Sunday morning. In fact I’m prepared it’s going to be WAAAAY out of my comfort zone, but I’m trusting for an amazing morning of connecting with other mom’s. And I’m trusting it will get me out of my own self-centred head for at least an hour – although I’m sure it will be for much longer than that!