Mid-life Musings – on turning 35!

So today I am officially MIDDLE AGED – yes it’s my birthday and I’m half way through my “three score years and 10” which makes me 35…. it’s pretty much all downhill from here folks! I can’t cope!

At least the lovely Abigail K captured me looking OK for 35 just last month in her #CTConfidence campaign and I’m so appreciative as it means I can look back on this photo when I hit 70 and appreciate my 35 year old self! I’ve realised in my 35 years here on earth thus far that we rarely really appreciate our current selves do we? I mean I would give ANYTHING to have my 18 year old self’s boobs right now! Someone should’ve told me that back then… oh wait… I think they did but I was too hungup on the parts of me I didn’t like to notice!!!

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I’m usually someone who loves birthdays, but this year I’ve kept it decidely low key… to be honest the day kinda crept up on me after our recent flurry of trips during the school holidays and before I knew it I didn’t have any time on either of the weekends before or after to get together with my girlfriends. Sob. Maybe I’ll get my act together and plan a belated birthday tea party….

At least I managed a family gathering on Sunday and tonight I’m heading out for a date night with a difference… We’re off to watch my sister-in-law strut her stuff in the muscial West Side Story which is on at the Artscape Theatre for one month only. I’m super excited.

Anyway, to celebrate this rather frightening number of my mid-life, I’ve made a two fun lists of 35 things…

35 things I’m done so far

  1. Went on a blind date
  2. Married an amazing man (at 21)
  3. Had his babies x 2
  4. Survived the pain of infertility for almost 18 months
  5. Gave birth without pain meds, TWICE
  6. Fought my fear of medical stuff and overcame it!
  7. Got my driver’s – first time!
  8. Bought my first car and paid it off
  9. Lived & worked overseas (2 years in London & Kent in the UK)
  10. Ate my way through Italy – gelato, pizza, pasta, vino, mozarella, pesto, prosciutto – take me back!
  11. Watched the moon rise over the Mediterranean in picturesque Positano
  12. Climbed to the top of the Eiffel Tower
  13. Drank Guiness in Dublin
  14. Had a white Christmas in Scotland
  15. Pigged out on chocolate in Bruges
  16. Retraced my roots to the Isle of Wight and discovered the British countryside – Cambridge, Oxford, Stonehenge, Bath, Brighton etc
  17. Seen my 5 favourite bands in concert – U2, John Mayer, Kings of Leon, Sting & Dave Matthews Band…. oh and One Direction 😉 (haha my husband is cringing right now!)
  18. Explored Stone Town in Zanzibar
  19. Scuba dived – and lived to tell the tale
  20. Travelled alone
  21. Conquered my fear of heights by doing the craziest zipline EVER
  22. Introduced my kids to the wonders of the African Bush
  23. Instituted an annual family holiday down the Garden Route
  24. Discovered my style
  25. Learnt to snow ski and then tackled a red run before I knew what it meant…. 
  26. Found my signature scent
  27. Worked out which hair colour suits me best – honey blonde highlights seems to garner the most compliments (thanks Style Bar!)
  28. Led a women’s bible study group
  29. Made amazing friends and maintained them for years, and more to come
  30. Gone camping and actually loved it…
  31. Been a cricket scorer
  32. Discovered the power of forgiveness and the the release of “letting go” (sing it with me!)
  33. Participated in the Olympics, twice, –> ok it was only the Blog Olympics, but it counts!
  34. Started a new career after being out of the working world for almost 10 years.
  35. Created this blog 😉

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35 things I still want to do (I predict this is going to be mostly travel!)

  1. Renovate our house!! I’ve been patient for 14 years –> it’s time!
  2. Get a degree – probably a BA in English, but I’m not sure if it’s entirely neccessary now that I’m doing what I love anyway!
  3. Glide in a hot air balloon over the Serengeti
  4. Ride the Rovos Rail or Blue Train
  5. Take an overland trip through Africa
  6. Write a book – isn’t this on everyone’s list?
  7. Print out my photos from the past 5 years – shocking!!
  8. See the Northern Lights
  9. Meander through a market in Marrakesh, Morocco
  10. Take the kids to Disneyland
  11. Visit my family in Australia, and the US
  12. New York!!
  13. Pick lavender in Provence
  14. Cruise from Croatia to Turkey to Greece with no deadlines or return date in mind
  15. Walk in the footsteps of Jesus in Jerusalem
  16. Learn how to paint my nails WITHOUT getting polish on my fingers
  17. Watch Taylor Swift in concert – Golden Circle obvs!
  18. Have a great relationship with my kids all their lives – even those terrible teens – this includes their spouses
  19. See my kids succeed each in their own way – picking the best career, choosing a great spouse, becoming loving parents, doing what they love!
  20. Save enough to retire comfortably
  21. Paint more
  22. Read more
  23. Pray more
  24. Wear sunscreen EVERYDAY – no skipping
  25. Learn how to apply eyeshadow, properly
  26. Swim with dolphins
  27. Be a better listener
  28. Invest in my girlfriends and share more with them – time, love, heart to hearts, life
  29. Age gracefully – with lots of laughter lines and less frown lines!
  30. Blog full time, well I am doing that already for someone else so I guess I’m halfway there
  31. Own a little cottage in Greyton with enough space to host friends and family every weekend
  32. Tell more people about how Jesus is the answer – whatever the question.
  33. Celebrate my Golden (50th) wedding anniversary. It’s do-able. I’ll be 71. Brad 74!
  34. Be a great granny! and a Great-Granny 😉
  35. Leave a legacy of kindness, compassion, joy, generosity, warmth and love (and little bit of chutzpah too!)


So there you have it folks.

Here’s to 35 amazing years and another 35, or a few extra if I’m lucky!



Pic of Kathryn – Abigail K Photography

Number, Candles & Sparkler – Pixabay

Kathryn Rossiter

Kathryn is a South African lifestyle blogger and mom of 2 who has been blogging daily for over 9 years! She writes about travel, health, beauty, fashion, decor and family... but not food (unless it's food she's eaten made by someone else) as she is a hopeless cook. She only wakes up early for 2 things... a red-eye flight to somewhere exotic and early morning game drives. She has just finished an extensive home renovation and would prefer to never see another box again. She's never met a chocolate or glass of bubbles that she didn't like!

  1. Yet another amazing, inspirational blog post!!! I’m going to try to make the same lists (although mine will have 40+ items??!! Yikes!!)…

    1. Good luck with your list Jane – It took me a while to get going and then I couldn’t stop! Found it quite encouraging to see what I have achieved so far – even the little things!

  2. Happy Birthday Kathryn
    Im 35 in ten days time (7th August) – didn’t realise we are the same age and that our birthdays were so close together
    Happy happy sweet lady
    I know what you mean about kind of skipping/letting the birthday creep up… Im deciding if I should or shouldn’t plan an event for mine…. sigh – decisions


    1. Oh wow – just 10 days or so between us!! Hope you have a special day. I was pleasantly surprised by mine. Best bet is to keep expectations low and let the day unfold… Have fun!

    1. Thanks Bailey – thought it was worth reminding myself of how far I’ve come and where I want to go 😉

  3. Congratulations! I enjoyed your lists. I’m also 35 in two weeks and I didn’t realize I was going to be middle-aged…. gulp!

    I’ve hired a tandem bicycle and we’re going cycling along the beautiful Lake Ontario Waterfront, then out for lunch sans kids.

    Wishing you all the best for the next 35 years…
    Love S

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