Whether we admit it or not most of us women love getting compliments, we may not know how to respond to them graciously but underneath our blushes we all love a little bit of love…
Unfortunately compliments seem to be harder to come by as we get older…. and once there is a baby on the scene, well, you can forget it! What we as the new mom looks like (usually quite frightening) is irrelevant when there is a newborn baby to coo over!!
Things go awry… we don’t feel great about ourselves so we don’t make an effort to look good, which means we don’t feel great about ourselves etc etc. Before long we can find ourselves sitting in our pyjamas at 4pm and not recalling when last we washed our hair let alone put on mascara or lipstick!! It happens. I’ve totally been there.
New motherhood is a complete blur for the best of us. There is NO TIME. EVER. After 5 years of being immersed in mommyhood I started to emerge from the first year of my second baby’s life and I realised that over the previous 5 years I had got a little bit lost under the pile of dirty nappies, stained bibs and pureed food. I had forgotten the things that gave me joy. And it was time to find them again! Or discover new ones!
And one of these was my blog…. one of the reasons I started this very blog was to initially remind MYSELF about who I was and what I enjoyed. And along the way I realised how important the message actually was, not only for myself, but for other moms too!
A few months into my blogging journey I started being invited to events and launches – many for the beauty or fashion industry – and it was COMPLETELY PETRIFYING. But as with anything that pushes you out of the box, it was ultimately the very thing I needed to rediscover myself. Showing up to places filled with the beautiful people meant I had to make an effort when it came to my outfits, hair and makeup. I had to learn how to look good again. And I realised that makeup was something I actually really enjoyed….
At one of the first events I was invited to I remember going up to the complimentary make-up stand for a “touch-up” (and to be assured that my makeup looked ok) and it was there that I was introduced to the wonders of a perfect red lip…. Yes, my very first time wearing red lipstick! And I was amazed at the #LipstickEffect. I wore it the rest of the day and even though I knew no one else at the event I felt my confidence soar. At first you might think everyone is looking at you for your ultra bright lipstick choice, but in fact no one appeared too bothered. I just felt great about myself! The very next day I went past the beauty counter at my nearest mall and bought my own red lippie.
Now red lipstick isn’t an everyday look (unless you’re Gwen Stefani) but over the past few years I’ve embraced this otherwise often avoided lipstick colour and recently I got 2 new shades of red to add to my collection.
And the amazing thing is that now EVERY TIME I wear red lipstick I get not 1, but at least 2 or 3 compliments about how I look. And these are not only about the lipstick but about my confidence or general appearance…. I can only think the reason for this is that red lipstick isn’t worn very often and so when it is it makes an impact!
Finding the perfect red lipstick can be a big challenge for someone who doesn’t know where to start so I’m forever grateful to that event make-up artist who encouraged me to step out of my box and embrace something new and different.
Red lipstick has been an unexpected confidence booster and compliment bringer for me and I’ve been so amazed by it’s effect that I’m now a huge advocate of red lipstick for all!
I totally believe that each and every woman should own her very own red lipstick – for those days when she feels awesome and wants the world to know it or those days when she feels rubbish and needs a little bit of help to feel gorgeous!
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