Today’s blogger, Jonelle, is one tough cookie…. although from appearances you wouldn’t know all she has had to deal with, dive deeper into her blog and you’ll find out. After our brief meeting at a blogger event recently I started to follow her online and discovered more about her… Read on to find out more about Jonelle and then pop over to her blog, Tyranny of Pink, to find out more. There’s so much more!
I know for sure that life is precious and it’s not about how much money we make but how much time we spend doing things we love, surrounded by the people who make us happy. It can be hard to choose a life that is simpler, that means less time working and more time with your loved ones but there can be no regrets on a life spent loving people instead of things. Life is so fragile and we take it for granted but it’s a gift that shouldn’t be wasted.
I’ve also learnt more and more that it’s never too late to start over, to try something new, to change your path. It can feel terrifying but a life wasted doing what makes you unhappy just isn’t worth it.
This sounds so cheesy but I love my life. I honestly wake up every single day and I’m thankful. I am thankful for being alive when I really nearly died giving birth to my son. I’ve had 6 surgeries since September last year and with every single one of them I am reminded that life is so fleeting and can be taken from us at any given moment.
I love my son with all of my heart. I did not know that being a mother would change the way I see the world. Everything is new and exciting and filled with possibility. I love my husband, I love that after everything we’ve been through in the last few months, he still thinks I’m the most beautiful and wonderful woman on earth and he’s seen me with a colostomy bag. I don’t know how I got this lucky. I love my mom to the end of the moon and back, she has been my absolute rock during the last few months. She has literally sacrificed her life to be at my side helping me out! I don’t know what I’d do without her.
I also love what I do. I’ve been working in the non-profit sector empowering women and youth for most of my career but since staying home to have my son, starting my blog (Tyranny of Pink) and changing my day-to-day lifestyle, I feel so fulfilled. I recently started a consulting business (Jonelledupont.com) helping people to realise their full potential and the rewards are beyond what I expected them to be. Being there for that a-ha moment when someone has been battling with making decisions fills me with happiness. It’s such a new part of my life but I can already see it’s what I was meant to do.
I read so much of everything. I’m currently reading Thrive by Ariana Huffington and that woman is incredible. Her life is an inspiration but what really gets me is her frank take on success. I love that she believes that life is about what’s important to you and you’ve got to listen to yourself and know what that means. I read a lot of blogs too, my favourite blogs are mostly entrepreneur type how-to blogs with tips about starting businesses, running businesses and finding your calling. I spent a long time in University so I’m addicted to learning I guess. I love to read things that teach me something I don’t already know and the older I get, the more I realise that there is always so much more to learn. My regular guilty pleasure though is when my Home magazine arrives and I sit down and savour the pages and prettiness with a hot cup of tea. I look forward to that magazine arriving every month.
To raise my son to be a good human being. I want him to be kind and accepting of others and to be true to who he is. I want him to know that he can always come to us when there’s something he needs to talk about. I want him to know that I’d give anything for his happiness. He is my everything and although we were told we could never naturally have children, we have him. I nearly died bringing him into this world and I want him to know it was worth it. I’d do it all again for him. He’s the most beautiful little boy and when he laughs, my heart explodes. I am blessed beyond measure with the life I have. I want to never stop appreciating what I’ve got.
Clothing that makes me feel comfortable and like myself. I’ve never been one for following trends, I prefer classic pieces that are guaranteed to still be classy and elegant in years to come. I mostly wear black, grey or white but always accompanied with lipstick. Even if I’m just at home alone with no one to see me, I wear my lipstick because it makes me feel like a woman. When I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror as I’m walking by, it makes me feel good. I am also the queen of boots and flats. I love heels and own so many pairs but as I get older I’ve started to realise that I have a lot more fun when I’m comfortable and I feel good when I’m comfy. It’s funny how the older you get, the less it becomes about how you look on the outside and more about how you feel on the inside. To me at least. My favourite thing to wear though, is my pjs. I love the end of the day, changing into my pjs and just knowing I’ve gotten through the day in one piece.
I need to be kinder to myself, to expect a bit less and to let myself heal. I need to learn how to accept help from others. I’ve always done everything for myself and learning that it’s okay to let go a little and give myself time to recover from everything I’ve been through makes me a good mother and not one who is slacking. I’ve been so hard on myself since Oden was born, I’ve tried to do it all and I’ve been angry when instead I found myself in hospital with yet another complication and another surgery scheduled. I need to just relax a bit more and understand that I need to heal before I can do it all.
I also REALLY need a holiday! Somewhere warm and on the beach. I close my eyes and have dreams of being in Thailand drinking cocktails on the beach with not a worry in sight.
Images & Text: Jonelle du Pont from Tyranny of Pink