How did you meet?

One of my favourite questions to ask people when meeting them for the first time is: “How did you meet?” (if they are together as a couple obviously!)

I find it often tells you a little bit more about the persons in question than just the surface question and usually starts off a great conversation with more than a few laughs!! And many times I have been surprised by the “Soap opera” stories – a few are positively messy!

It’s so interesting to me to discover the amazing ways that people meet and connect and ultimately continue to have a relationship after a chance meeting that lasts for years even lifetimes….. fascinating!

Depending on the age range of the couple in question you might think you know what the most common connection is (mutual friends, a dance hall, school sweethearts) but these days with so many new ways of connecting springing up all the time especially online there is no formula to meet your mate!

So, I bet you are probably wondering my answer to this question – my husband and I met over 11 years on a BLIND DATE. Yes, occasionally they DO work out! This good fortune means that I am a big advocate of the blind date in all it’s forms and when a single friend of mine was recently bemoaning the lack of decent, marriageable men I was the first to encourage the “modern” form of blind-dating – online dating. Yes I know it can all go horribly wrong with stalkers and worse but I’m all for putting yourself out a little bit to make something happen. My favourite line comes to mind: “You got to be in it to win it” and I reckon that counts for dating too! In the last 2 years not one, but two, friends have tried this option with success – one is now married to her online romeo! What do you think – have you give online dating a bash – what were your experiences? And if you were in your single friends’ shoes would you try it? I suppose it is often viewed as “desperate” but isn’t hanging out in a club with your best face on also a bit desperate??? I think desperate is a state of mind! Who knows THE ONE might be waiting for you tonight!! If not, at least you’ll have some funny stories to share at your next girl’s night out! Alternatively if you aren’t keen on the internet and prefer a “real-life” meeting you could try an introduction agency. The lovely lady, Michele Griffiths, who set up my blind date those many years ago has recently opened up an introduction club for singles called Introduce Me (obviously as her first success I thought I should promote it!) If you, or a friend, are interested in joining just mention you found her through this blog and she will give you a discounted joining fee!

So, how did you meet your partner?? You didn’t think you were going to get away without sharing it with me! How long after you met did you know this was “The One”? Come on – share the story so the singles out there can get some “hunting ground” tips!! 🙂

Kathryn Rossiter

Kathryn is a South African lifestyle blogger and mom of 2 who has been blogging daily for over 9 years! She writes about travel, health, beauty, fashion, decor and family... but not food (unless it's food she's eaten made by someone else) as she is a hopeless cook. She only wakes up early for 2 things... a red-eye flight to somewhere exotic and early morning game drives. She has just finished an extensive home renovation and would prefer to never see another box again. She's never met a chocolate or glass of bubbles that she didn't like!

4 Comments
  1. I met my husband nearly seven years ago when visiting a friend in Joburg. She was dating a new guy and on the way to a party we stopped to pick up his best friend. His family had just acquired the cutest little Jack Russell puppy, so we got out the car and went into their garden to play with the little guy. I had a nice chat with his mom, met both his brothers while mr was still getting ready (he’s still late for everything to this day! I had no inkling that I was about to meet my future husband. The little Jacky is all grown up these days and I’ll always have a special spot for him, he’s been a part of my husband’s family just a little longer than I have:)

  2. First day of high school oh so many years ago … we didn’t start dating until a couple of years later and this month it’s been TWENTY YEARS!
    I think I need to go and sit down …

  3. I met my husband on http://www.matchmaker.com. I did also meet a few dodgy characters through the site but generally it is great because you can be very specific about the type of person you want to meet. We were engaged within 6 months of meeting and married on the 1st anniversary of the day that we met. I did also meet 2 friends through the site who I have maintained contact with. We have been married for 7 years now and have 2 lovely children together.

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