Am I Betty Draper?

I recently started watching Mad Men (yes a bit slow on the uptake here…) and it’s provided a lot of interesting thoughts and discussions. Most of time I feel much relieved to be living in the 21st century and not the early 60’s – life for women was really restrictive during that era. So much progression for women has happened over the last few decades – our lives are very different from our grandmothers – but most of us modern day gals take these changes forgranted! Watching this series has really made me grateful for my life and options available to me today!!

Currently I work part time and mother 2 small kids the rest of the time (which is a full time job plus HOURS of unpaid overtime). I am grateful for the luxury of time at home with my kids during these early years but I do find myself tearing my hair out and losing my patience FAR more often than I would like (a bit like Betty perhaps?). I don’t think there is a quick fix to this and I feel many moms are quietly battling the same problems. We love our kids and want to be with them and teach and guide them but 24/7 can be too much for even the most saintly of moms. Unfortunately because we fear the judgment of other women, we keep quiet and try to keep up the pretense of everything being “fine” – if only we were able to be more real with each other and share the lows we are struggling with. Wouldn’t we feel so much better for voicing our own fears as well as being encouraged by the experiences of others?

Last Saturday I spent a wonderful morning with a group of women who all came to listen to 4 stories of other women’s journeys. The stories were ordinary in many ways but hearing them recount their lives inspired many of us to be more open in our conversations with our friends. Isn’t that what friendship is about? Being real! Too often we keep chatting and gossiping at a very superficial level, too nervous to reveal our secrets – if only we were brave enough to take the friendship to the next level we would probably be surprised at how many other women/moms out there wanted to deepen the relationship too! There is such a need for community, unfortunately something we have lost in comparison to our grandmothers. Nowadays we all seem to hide behind our high walls and electric fences barely waving at our neighbours. We could all benefit from a sense of comraderie, neighbourliness, community. But that is for another post…

In the meantime here is a snippet of Betty Draper’s finest parenting moments (I’m ashamed to admit but I do see a few that remind me of myself! OK not the bit about “Go bang your head against a wall” but I am feeling challenged)

Kathryn Rossiter

Kathryn is a South African lifestyle blogger and mom of 2 who has been blogging daily for over 9 years! She writes about travel, health, beauty, fashion, decor and family... but not food (unless it's food she's eaten made by someone else) as she is a hopeless cook. She only wakes up early for 2 things... a red-eye flight to somewhere exotic and early morning game drives. She has just finished an extensive home renovation and would prefer to never see another box again. She's never met a chocolate or glass of bubbles that she didn't like!

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